A lot of people are quick to tell you their sad story. How unfair things are. How “unlucky” they’ve been. How “traumatic” their life was. How powerless they are to change anything. That’s why they lose. Because playing the victim might make you feel better for a moment… …but it never moves you forward. Winners don’t operate like that. They don’t look for handouts. They don’t wait for pity. They don’t ask for sympathy. They take what they have… …and they win with it. Remember this: Some people will have it easier than you. Some people will have it harder than you. Either way… It has nothing to do with what you’re capable of doing with your life. So what are you going to do? Keep wasting time complaining about how unlucky you are? Stay stuck in that story forever? Or take what you have… …and run with it? It’s your choice. The world doesn’t need more victims. It needs winners. Which one are you going to be? ~ Andy Frisella

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Spending time with my family today

We are typically and informally asked to dress in black for this service. These photos were taken just outside the church in the twilight after the service so the detail is not as great as I would like. My bowler, db jacket, trousers, shirt and shoes are all black. My tie is a black and grey western style tie from Austin accsssories, my pocket square is black and grey stripes as are my socks. So I just added some grey to the over all black.

Black is a fringe color. In many ways it’s akin to wearing a pale green suit- but in reverse. Perhaps There seems to be some confusion about its use as though it’s an essential conservative color in suiting. While that is true for tuxedos and a color to wear to a funeral, in virtually any other circumstance it’s the opposite of conservative. It’s a bold stand-out statement. Unless you are in an environment where a black suit for funerals is required it should be way down the list of essential purchases. The order (for suits) instead should be tiered as follows A. Charcoal Grey/ Navy/lighter grey B. Tans/browns/olives C Black/ burgundy’s etc In most cases a charcoal suit can supplant a black suit and since it is the most versatile color that exists, it has infinitely more uses than a black. Because of black’s stark boldness it should be thought of as a fringe bold color in either suiting or certain accessories. That all said-I can think of no other day in the year that represents more boldness than Good Friday. The 4*6 foot oil painting in my home office representing that very day has an interesting backstory but the short version is that it was painted by a cousin and it hung at the front of the church I attended with my grandparents throughout my entire childhood. Even though this is a market Holiday I have one lunch meeting with a client so I put on the following OOTD. MTM 1987 Royal blue blazer Black cut and sewn shirt Silver with black polka dot silk Pocket Square MTM charcoal trousers Byford OTC merino wool socks in black J Fitzpatrick black captoes Casio dive watch in black